Tuesday 22 November 2016

Safe Remedies to Whiten Teeth in Just 7 Days

Having a bright, clean smile can make you look more appealing, while boosting your confidence. But what’s more important is that clean teeth can also keep your mouth healthy and helps to avoid diseases and infections.

To achieve a whiter smile, brushing and flossing are required. There are also some home remedies have the ability to improve your smile in just seven days:

Coconut Oil

If you haven’t heard about oil pulling, you’re missing out on a lot. Coconut oil is said to help whiten teeth by simply swishing it around the mouth. It’s not very pleasant especially for first timers, but coconut oil is effective in ridding bacteria that cause plaque and make teeth yellow – thanks to its lauric acid.

Strawberry Scrub

The berries are high in vitamin C, a nutrient that can remove plaque that causes the yellow look on teeth. Strawberries also have malic acid that can get rid of surface stains. The scrub also requires salt, which can remove stains, and baking soda (optional) for its whitening properties. Here’s what you need to do:

Take one to three large strawberries and mash them to a pulp.
Add a pinch of sea salt. If you’re going to use baking soda, add half a teaspoon of it.
Before you apply the scrub to your teeth using your toothbrush, make sure your mouth isn’t too wet.
Start brushing like you normally would and rinse after five minutes.
Do this every night for a week to see the results.

Lemon Juice Homemade Paste

Lemon juice can act as bleach that can whiten your teeth. Add baking soda to counteract the acidity of lemon. You only need these two ingredients for the homemade toothpaste. Use your toothbrush to scoop the combination. Don’t rinse for about one minute. You can do this every other night.

ACV Whitening

Apple cider vinegar can remove surface stains on your teeth. The results are not instant, but you will see the difference in about a week. Here’s what you need to do:

1:  Mix two teaspoons of ACV with baking soda.
2:  Start brushing your teeth with the paste and leave for a minute or two before you rinse.

According to statistics, about 18% of people choose to hide their teeth in photos. If you’re among this percentage and your reason is because you have stained teeth, you don’t have to add expensive treatments to your budget. The methods above will help you achieve whiter teeth and even a healthier smile in just seven days.

Saturday 19 November 2016

7 Reasons Why Real Men Would Never Cheat

So many boys, so few real men.  By cheating on a woman, you are screwing her over for the long run – she’ll likely be unable to trust another man for years to follow. Real men don’t cheat. Here’s why:

1. Real men know what’s more important in life

The emotions, the feelings, the love, the memories, there are so many things that matter in life and are important. Real men know the importance of these things and know that staying loyal with their partners is more important than to go look for other people to have flings with. We are emotional, we cry, we laugh, we don’t have any ulterior motives in our minds, we just want to enjoy our lives with the people we love.

2. Real men have the power to break up

One of the reasons why people cheat is when they aren’t happy with their partners and they want to see other people. And most of the time, they are too scared to break up. This is what real men don’t do, real men know when it’s time to break up with someone when things aren’t going well. They know that it’s much better to leave someone than to cheat on them or to lie to them, it’s another way of showing them respect by being completely honest with them.

3. Real men can’t juggle

I’ve seen a lot of guys who juggle two women at once, I don’t get how they do it. It’s emotionally impossible for me to imagine being with two girls at once, to be with two women and keep them in the dark. How can people play with someone’s feelings like that? To make each partner think they truly love them while telling the other partner the very same thing? This is something real men can’t do, they just can’t and won’t juggle. They’re happy with one woman who loves them.

4. Real men can’t think of hurting their partners

Like I talk in the beginning, real men respect their partners. They can never think of intentionally hurting their partners. When someone cheats, they actually break the person who was in love with them. They break every fibre of trust their partners had in them and they cause a lot of trauma. Real men can never think of making their partners go through so much negativity and darkness and can never hurt their partners by being with someone else behind their backs.

5. Real men can control themselves

Real men have enough will power to control themselves. Being a “one-woman-man” is not a thing of the past. Real men don’t have the urge to be physical with someone else because they’re happy enough with their partners. Real men know that the value of lust is not more than love and lust goes away after a while but love stays.

6. Real men don’t want to live a lie

When someone is a cheater, they tend to lie a lot. Cheaters have to think of a thousand scenarios to cover their tracks and they have to lie on a lot of occasions. Real men just don’t want to live a lie all their lives, they can’t be unjust and untrue towards their partners and they like to tell them everything. I tell my girlfriend everything about my past because I want complete transparency, and I don’t hide anything from her even if telling her something would result in a fight. It’s better to tell the truth and get what’s coming than to lie and wait for something to come when it’s too late.

7. Real men know how to respect their partners

Respect is an integral part of every relationship and it makes every relationship mature and long-lasting. Respect is what takes relationships to the next step and helps them grow. Real men know how to respect their partners, they know of the level of respect their partners deserve and they never forget it regardless of how they feel. Real men give a lot of importance to respect and this is one of the reasons why they never cheat, they just cannot disrespect their partners.

Saturday 12 November 2016

Mindfulness: 11 Powerful New Scientific Studies Show It Brings Happiness Into Your Life

Mindfulness is something we’re hearing a lot about these days. It’s a way of focusing non-judgmentally on the here-and-now, without letting your mind wander into the past or future. Supposedly, it’s a way to bring more health and joy into your life. But is the hype true? Can mindfulness make you happier?

1. Mindfulness Helps You Stay In The Moment

Researcher Matt Killingsworth of Harvard was driven to put mindfulness to the test. After all, mindfulness is all about staying in the present moment and not judging it. But a lot of times, in the here-and-now, we’d rather be doing other things!

Let’s say that you’re sitting in traffic – and it’s rough. Surely you’d rather be parasailing on the beach, so wouldn’t daydreaming about your favorite sport, taking your mind away from the traffic, have a positive effect on your commute?

  Killingsworth was so curious about this issue that he built app that would answer that question!

Placing the app in the hands of 15,000 people all over the world, people with a wide variety of ages, beliefs, and jobs, Killingsworth programmed the app to buzz people at random times of day and ask these questions: (1) what they are doing, (2) are they enjoying it, and (3) were their minds were wandering while they did it?

For those whose minds were wandering (about 47%), the app then asked them what they were thinking about and what their happiness level was.

The amazing findings showed that the people who were focused on what they were doing – EVEN IF THEY DIDN’T LIKE IT – were happier than the people whose minds were wandering.

Humans are happiest when we stay in the moment, and that’s what mindfulness is all about.
Now it’s documented.

Even if your mind wanders to a better place, you’re more likely to be happy if you stay in the moment, and that’s what mindfulness is all about.

Here’s my take on mindfulness, married to Killingsworth’s data: The big difference that mindfulness can make is that it teaches you to stop wasting your energy judging the situation as good or bad. You’re in the moment, you’re doing whatever you’re doing, and there is no sense getting riled up about it. The only person you’re hurting with the drama is – yourself.

So, at least for the 15,000 people who took this test, it’s safe to say that if they practiced mindfulness, they’d be happier. We’ve got the data.

You can watch Killingsworth explain his process and results in his TEDxTalk, here:

2. Mindfulness Helps You Tap Into Joy And Wonder

Why do we want that big house, nice clothes, exotic vacation, or whatever else we dream of? Because we think it will make us happy. Melli O’Brien (also known as Mrs. Mindfulness) claims that she learned mindfulness in the real world, without any religious affiliation attached to it, and that mindfulness helps you tap into the joy and wonder that you long for, even before you get the big house, nice clothes, and exotic vacation.

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In her blog post entitled, “New Research Shows that Mindfulness is the Secret to happiness,” O’Brien shared several studies about mindfulness.

Besides pointing to the Killingsworth study, she reveals two other critical works that back up the idea that happiness comes from within, not from money, external conditions, or even what you’re doing at the moment.

When people have enough money to get their basics taken care of, money won’t make them happier. You can view the results of that study here.

Dr. Mihaly Chentmihalyi coined the word “flow” to mean that peak state of human existence when everything’s working. In this state, life seems to work better and circumstances seem to support you rather than get in your way. You can see him speak of it here:

Check out the complete blog post of Mrs. Mindfulness on these three concepts here.

3. Mindfulness Has Brain-Based Benefits

David Rock, Doctor of Professional Studies and author of Your Brain at Work: Strategies for Overcoming Distraction, Regaining Focus, and Working Smarter All Day Long, insists that the concept of mindfulness could help a lot more people if we talk about it without its religious roots in ancient Buddhism.

That’s because it’s easier to explain brain-based benefits to a Westerner than trying to tackle a religious question that can throw up barriers to listening. (And, yes, those barriers are part of normal brain functioning, too.) He explains this in an article at Psychology Today.

Besides, you don’t need to be religious, close your eyes, or focus on your breath to practice mindfulness. What’s really happening is just shifting from using one brain circuit to using another, so you become aware of what your brain is doing.

Rock, who is executive director of the NeuroLeadership Institute and CEO of the NeuroLeadership Group, makes the point that mindlessness is the root cause of many of the world’s problems; therefore, almost any discussion of social ills can come around to the antidote of mindfulness. Everyone can take time to think clearly, but it needs to be a habit.

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To really “get” the concept of mindfulness, you have to understand that there are two basic operating systems in the brain that control what your mind focuses on. One is known as the “default” or “narrative” mode.

This was documented in a 2007 study by Norman A.S. Farb, called “Attending to the Present: Mindfulness Meditation Reveals Distinct Neural Modes of Self-Reference.”

The narrative mode is easy to remember, because when you’re in this mode, it really does seem that your mind is telling you a long story, complete with characters (mostly you), events, twists of fate, and outcomes. If you’re walking down the street, your mind might wander from where you’re going, to what might happen once you get there, to something that happened ten years ago. But it’s what we call a stream of consciousness… it never stops UNLESS the other mode kicks in.

The other mode is called “direct.” That’s because there is no stream of consciousness. You are receiving sensory data and all your attention is on that, and there is no thought. Say you’re sitting in lounge chair at the beach, and a buddy comes up behind you and dumps a bucket of water on your head! Instantly, your senses send an alert to the brain, and you’re not thinking of a narrative, such as “Who did this?” You’re experiencing the water touching your skin, the smell of the salt water, and the grit of sand in the water. Your senses have taken over. You know people who had an accident and explain that “time stood still” because of the overload.

Immediately, though, you’ll go back to narrative mode (also called “default” mode). “Who did this? I know, Tom! When I catch him, I’m gonna…” You see, you immediately made a value judgment and started telling a new story.

One important note. These two modes of thinking use different hardware in different parts of the brain. The default, or narrative mode operates in the middle of the prefrontal cortex and the hippocampus (memory center). The direct mode operates from the insula and the anterior cingulate cortex. (Don’t worry – you won’t be tested on that at the end of the article!)

That’s why it takes mindfulness to know which part of the brain you’re using. When you focus on one point of sensory awareness, such as watching a candle flicker, you’re consciously exercising one part of the brain that doesn’t get too much of a workout in this day and age.

You don’t want to wait until some accident or traumatic event makes time stand still. You just want to learn to switch circuits at will, even making time stand still when you’re focused on something pleasurable, like a meal you just ate or the sand between your toes. This literally causes you to develop the mental hardware that is responsible for awareness. Your senses will sharpen, you’ll notice more detail, and you’ll have better recall.

Something else to point out: if you’re a high-wired executive concerned with marketing tactics, operational systems, and the latest reports, the circuits in your brain that take care of that stuff tend to be very well developed, while the circuits with people skills might not be. So talking to you about mindfulness might have the same effect as talking to someone who speaks a different language. Literally, exercising your brain can have a neurological, physical effect.

But even if you’re a results-driven, callous individual, the benefits of clarity from mindfulness will be self-evident soon enough. Trying to convince you to take time out of your day for mindfulness practice in order to benefit a vague goal like “world peace” might not work so well. But when you know you’re exercising a part of the brain that makes you sharper, more observant, and more able to handle a multitude of problems, you’re in.

By the way, that’s why you can’t explain mindfulness to most Westerners through the imagery of Buddhist Monks. Most Westerners can’t relate to that, and their brain physiology won’t make it easy for them to try.

Imagining that you’re practicing mindfulness won’t give you the brain-based benefits of the practice. You actually have to do it. In fact, thinking of doing it only activates the same old narrative part of the brain. But when you do practice, it’s not necessary to close your eyes, breathe deeply, or light any candles.

4. Mindfulness Reduces Stress

This study by Kirk Warren Brown and Richard M. Ryan reveals how much of our daily lives are unconscious, or what they call “mindless.”

This property of being unconscious of things going on in the environment, fuzzy memories, sloppy communication, and even ignoring sensations in the body leads to misunderstandings and more conflict than necessary. It also leads to stress, because you’ll find yourself losing your keys, forgetting whether or not you passed on a message, or how much you ate. Add to that a real stressor like finding out that you’ve got cancer, and you’re in a perfect storm.

Brown and Ryan asked their participants to rate themselves on a number of questions such as, “I rush through activities without really paying attention to them,” or “I tend not to notice feelings of physical tension or discomfort until they really grab my attention.” From this list, they could evaluate how conscious the people were, and how “mindless,” or inattentive.

Obviously, this affects family relationships, performance on the job, and dealings with professionals such as tax preparers or attorneys.

The participants were dealing with cancer, and the study was meant to find out if mindfulness would reduce mood disturbance and stress in this group of people with the hopeful aim of introducing it to treatment programs at large. Over the course of the study, the patients did report an increase in mindfulness (a special technique called MBSR or Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction), and a reduction of stress and mood disturbance, even after taking impinging factors like fatigue and pain into consideration.

5. Mindfulness Improves Attention Span & Behavior

In “The Effectiveness of Mindfulness Training on Behavioral Problems and Attentional Functioning in Adolescents with ADHD,” colleagues Eva van de Weijer-Bergsma, Anne R. Formsma, Esther I. de Bruin, and Susan M. Bogels put forth the idea that mindfulness can help families coping with ADHD.

Using ADHD students between 11-15 years old and their parents, researchers put all participants through Mindfulness Training. They also tested the students and got the parents’ parenting self-assessments before, during, and after the study.

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The results were positive: the students improved their attention span, behavior, and test scores. Fathers reduced their level of parenting stress and mothers reduced their level of overreactive parenting. (There was one downer: fathers increased their overreactive parenting.)

Eight weeks after the program ended, researchers followed up and found that the improvements were actually stronger! However, in a later follow-up, the benefits had faded out over time.

This could mean that the families were not able to keep up their mindfulness practices without ongoing support, and slipped back into their old habits.

6. Mindfulness Can Soothe Nerves & Improve Focus

By 2013, over 3,000 students in Great Britain had been taught mindfulness techniques. With high-school aged students facing the terror of placement exams, teachers were looking for an effective technique to help them relax, focus, and do their best. The result? “Beditation.”

Beditation is simply meditation done lying down. It is often coupled with “7/11” breathing: breathe in to the count of 7, breathe out to the count of 11.

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Mindfulness was pioneered in English schools by teachers Richard Burnett and Chris Cullen, who created the Mindfulness in Schools Project in 2007. Later, Teacher Dominic Morris introduced mindfulness and added beditation into his school as well. Students report positive results: better sleep and focus, better self-control at home and school, and soothing their nerves before exams and even parties.

Their head teacher, Jenny Stephen, explained that she supported them because, “Mental wellbeing is at the route of being able to achieve anything.”

7. Mindfulness Reduces Pain And Inflammation

Dr. Deepak Chopra recommends a combination of mindfulness meditation and medicinal herbs for a number of maladies, including emotional and spiritual healing, and balancing of the body, mind, and spirit.

Chopra claims that meditation can reduce inflammation and chronic pain.

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He cites a 1982 study showing that meditation helped 65% of patients suffering from chronic pain. He also claims that meditation can change the way our minds perceive pain, separating the worrisome emotional damage from the actual physical pain, making it less destructive. Chopra is in no way against conventional therapies, and suggests that the herbs and meditations should be used in conjunction with whatever treatments you and your doctor think are best for you.

8. Mindfulness Says, “Don’t Worry, Be Happy!”

Some suffering comes to every person on the planet, but we humans have a way of adding additional suffering by thinking about it all the time.

As the Dalai Lama suggests, don’t worry about either kind of suffering. If you can do something about your problems, do it. If you can’t, then stop worrying about it – there is nothing you can do anyway.

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Mindfulness is not about putting your head in the sand. It’s about preserving your energy for solutions, which often come in the shower or at some other unexpected moment. When you fret and worry so much about the problem, you render yourself less likely to be available to receive an opportunity when it knocks.

Although not purely science-based, the advice is logical.

9. Mindfulness Changes The Brain In 17 Ways!

Forbes writer Alice G. Walton reveals a treasure trove of studies revealing the positive effect that meditation can have on the brain.

Some of these studies are physical tests, like MRIs, and some are psychological and emotional assessments. The results are so positive that I’m beginning to think we should teach mindfulness in kindergarten!
I’m going to list a very brief summary of the various benefits and give you a link to the full article at the end.

Meditation Helps Preserve the Aging Brain – Meditating for 20 years generally means that you’ll have more grey matter in your brain in old age.

Meditation Reduces Activity in the Brain’s “Me Center” Mindfulness meditation decreases activity in the default [narrative] mode, which is responsible for the “monkey chatter” in your mind.

Rivals Antidepressants for Depression, Anxiety – Mindfulness meditation can reduce symptoms of depression, anxiety, and pain.

Meditation May Lead to Volume Changes in Key Areas of the Brain – These changes in various brain centers affect your mood and wellbeing as well.

Just a Few Days of Training Improves Concentration and Attention – Testing showed that only a few weeks made an improvement in Graduate Records Examination (GRE) test scores.

Meditation Reduces Stress and Social Anxiety – Practicing calmness in a meditation exercise has a way of making your whole life calmer.

Meditation Can Help with Addiction – Because meditation fosters self-control, more and more studies are checking results.

Short Meditation Breaks Can Help Kids in School: – In San Francisco, a school district decreased suspensions and raised GPAs and attendance by starting a meditation program at high-risk schools.

Worth a Try :- For most people, the benefits far outweigh any possible side effects, the most likely being boredom!
But some people point out that meditation can have a side effect known as “dark night.” It’s rare, temporary, and avoidable if you have a good teacher. Please see the resources below for help understanding and avoiding a side effect like this.

But some people point out that meditation can have a side effect known as “dark night.” It’s rare, temporary, and avoidable if you have a good teacher. Please see the resources below for help understanding and avoiding a side effect like this.

10. Mindfulness Helps You Be YOU

Mindfulness can help close your self-discrepancy gap. What’s a “self-discrepancy gap”?

It’s the gap between the actual you and the ideal “you” that you carry around in your mind. It represents all the things that you beat yourself up for, the areas where you think you’re failing, and every flaw you think you have.

Sarah Roberts answered the question in the Berkeley Science Review by showing us these ways that mindfulness can help:

* Mindfulness is heavy on self-compassion and acceptance. Because of this, people may rate themselves a little higher in their own minds, thereby decreasing the gap.

* Because of the non-judgmental attitude of mindfulness, people may be able to conclude that some of their “ideal” goals are a little unrealistic, thus decreasing the gap.

* Because mindfulness causes us to focus more on the here-and-now, people might focus less on the construct of an “ideal self” to meet up to. While there still may be a gap, the mindfulness student is less likely to worry about it.

* Anyone can learn and practice mindfulness. It doesn’t require a degree, special religion, certain job skill, or anything else.

Can lessening your self-discrepancy gap make you happier? At the very least, it should provide some relief, and relief is a step in the right direction.

11. Mindful Meditation Can Boost Your Happiness

In this article, Stephany Tlalka points out that one of the best ways to boost happiness is to practice mindful meditation. The practice will keep you from stressing out about problems and having knee-jerk reactions to them. It can help you cut the drama out of your life, and it’s one of the best processes you can use to do that.

Tlalka suggests starting with a simple body scan meditation, in which you pay attention to your body instead of watching TV after work. The point is not to judge or worry about your body, but just to notice it.

She also got some more proven techniques from Emma Seppala, Associate Director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education at Stanford University, who came up with 5 practices that will make you happier, proven by scientific facts:

Gratitude: Take the time to notice and give thanks for the good things you already have.

Service/Compassion: Reach out and help people or causes when you’re inspired to.

Play: Have some fun once in awhile – it’s infectious.
Don’t Chase Happiness: If you work too hard for it, it might disappear.

Meditate: Tlalka’s got a simple starting meditation built right into the original article.
You might think that compassion would make you more miserable, because you’re focused on the tragedy of others. But there is a big difference between feeling bad on behalf of someone else and reaching out to touch somebody in a positive way. Reaching out to help is also infinitely superior to feeling guilty because you did nothing .

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Amazing health benefits of having one cucumber per day

There are so many benefits embedded in having a cucumber and feasting on the goodness daily. In order to learn the educational values of this vegetable, it will be good for us not to focus on the carnal use of it.

Consuming cucumber daily is healthy since it is made mostly. The low-calorie vegetable is one of the most grown vegetables in the world. There are so many health benefits accrued to eating cucumber like every other fruits and vegetables.

This vegetable with a unique taste can be combined with many meals in order to tap from the benefits. Eating cucumber daily will keep you from being dehydrated since it is made of about 95 percent of water.

One should be careful in selecting the cucumber to be eaten. Pick the ones with round edges with a colour that ranges from bright to dark green. Soft cucumbers are not as fresh as the hard ones and this may affect the quality too.

Here are some of the reasons why you should fee your body with at least one cucumber in a day:

1. Promotes skin health
Taking one or two cucumbers daily will prevent your skin from getting dried. Cucumber is made mostly of water, it also contains ascorbic and caffeic acids. These compounds prevent the body from losing water. Cucumbers contain magnesium,potassium and silicon. This is one of the reasons why they are being used in spas for treatment.

2. Helps get rid of toxins
Another reason why you should always eat cucumber is because it helps detoxify the body. The toxins in the body get flushed out when you take this vegetable regularly. It also helps to dissolve kidney stones. 

  3. Good for a healthy heart
Cucumbers contain an appreciable amount of potassium. High levels of potassium helps reduce the chances of having strokes and other heart related diseases. Eat more cucumbers to increase the potassium levels in your body. They help in regulating the blood pressure.

4. Helps get rid of hangover
Having a bad day after consuming so much booze? You can get over the hangover by taking cucumbers as they are a good cure for that. The electrolytes contained in it will revitalize your body and jolt you back to reality.
5. Helps in fighting cancer
Cucumbers contain high levels of polyphenols like lariciresinol, secoisolariciresinol and pinoresinol. These substances help in fighting cancer.

6. Good for the eyes
Placing slices of cucumber under the eyes is good for you as  they will help reduce the puffiness of the eyes and make you full of energy. It is useful in enhancing visual beauty. The vitamins contained in cucumbers will boost your immunity and keep you healthy. 

Monday 7 November 2016

Treat and Manage Acid Reflux, Heartburn, and GERD with these All-Natural Healing Drinks

You can now get rid of GERD, acid reflux, and heartburn with these three all-natural drinks.
If you occasionally suffer fro heartburn, acid reflux, or GERD, you don’t have to use medication ever again. You can now make use of food items most commonly found in the kitchen as they can naturally cure these conditions.

We highly recommend these three natural remedies to get rid of these conditions altogether.

Basil Tea

At the onset of heartburn, simply chew washed basil leaves. You may also prepare a tea by boiling three to five basil leaves in a cup of water. You can sweeten up the tea with honey, but remember not to add milk.

Cinnamon Drink

Cinnamon is a great remedy for many digestive problems and stomach issues. Simply add a teaspoon of cinnamon in hot water. Let this boil for a few minutes and set aside to cool. Cinnamon tea should be consumed at least thrice a day for positive results.

Cloves

Cloves are herbs that function to reduce the secretion of gastric acid in the stomach as well as eliminate gases. A few grains of clove is ideally chewed on daily basis. This is an effective remedy for bad breath or halitosis, especially when combined with cardamom.

Saturday 5 November 2016

10 Signs That Tell She’s The One For You

So You’ve been going out for quite a while now and things have been going really well.

You get along well with each other despite all the differences between the two of you.

You want to make it official but there are so many things you’re uncertain about.

You’re not sure if it’s too soon or should you give it more time.

You don’t know if she is ready yet.

Most importantly, you have doubts about it working out and dread getting hurt yourself or hurting her in the process.

These fears go away when you know she’s The One. Because then you’d give everything to make it work and never back out regardless of how harsh circumstances become.

Following are a few of the many signs that assure you that she is in fact the one;

You only have eyes for her

She may seem ordinary to the whole world, but to you she is the most attractive girl you’ve ever met. You’re never distracted by any other women. Even in a room full of women, your eyes only search for your girl. You don’t feel like you’d miss out on anything even if she’s the only one you’ll ever be with.

She’s the reason behind your smile

Whenever you take a moment to think of her, even when you’re occupied, you can’t help but smile. All you can think about is how exceptionally amazing she is in so many ways, how she makes you laugh and how lucky you are to have her. And how she makes you feel special just by looking at you.

She accepts you for who you are

She embraces you, not just the good parts but the whole of you. She not only tells you that you’re perfect the way you are, but also proves it in her own way. The parts of you that you were once afraid of even showing to her are acceptable to her. Not only that, but she also helps you deal with your fears. She reassures you that all your flaws fall perfectly together to make you who you are and that they are nothing to be ashamed of.

Your Shared Interests Include More Than Hobbies

Hey, if your girlfriend likes the same TV shows, books, and movies as you, that’s awesome. However — as guys — we have to accept that not every woman is going to be as diehard of a Star Wars fan as you’re going to be. Shared life interests go far beyond mutual hobbies. Living your life in a similar fashion to someone else with similar core beliefs is huge. For instance, if she cares as much as about her family as you do, you’ll never have to be involved in a stupid fight about who goes where for the holidays. (For the record, Star Wars is still an amazing movie.)

 You Resolve Your Fights

Every couple will fight and anyone who lives differently is living in a fantasy-land that more or may not be made entirely of bubblegum and candy. You can tell you’re made for each other when fights don’t rip you both at the seams. When those little scuffles and arguments build up and get under your skin, they weigh on each partner and can eventually drive people apart. However, fixing fights and actually talking through them is a luxury a lot of people don’t consider when all keyed up and angry. When you fight, you two take a few minutes to yourself, cool off, and talk about a solution. The make up sex is a bonus. 

You Can Travel Together

Traveling with your life partner is one of the most fun ways to travel — because, let’s be real, not everyone has the capacity to aimlessly wander about Europe with a backpack and bottle of whiskey. When you travel together — and you should travel together — do your different personalities clash, or complement each other? If you’re able to go on vacations and day-trips without going insane from fighting, you’re doing something right. 

You Can Live Together

Living together under the same roof actually may be one of the biggest struggles in a relationship. If the act of moving in together doesn’t drive you crazy, figuring out how to get over the bliss that is living by yourself and eating fried chicken in bed until 3 a.m. will really show you what you’re capable of as a human being. It’s no easy task by any means, but if you talk about the decision beforehand, manage your expectations, and come to terms with the reality that you’ll hear each other pooping, moving with your girlfriend becomes way less daunting.

She gives you space

She doesn’t make you feel like you owe it to her to spend every waking moment with her just because the two of you are together. She respects the fact that you need your space as much as she needs hers. She acknowledges the fact that you have a life outside of the relationship and is accepting of that.

Your efforts never go unnoticed

We all express our affection very differently. Maybe because it has a lot to do with the kind of person you are and the kind of person you’re with. Keeping this in mind, you try to do things for her every now and then, even things you’re not comfortable with. She not only acknowledges every little thing you do for her but also appreciates it.

Not only do you love her, but so does your family

This part is a bit difficult and tricky. Getting your family to like her and accept her is never easy. It depends on how you present her and more importantly on how she treats your family. If she is able to win them over, for your sake, then there is no doubt about her being the one.

You Can Maintain The Friend/Girlfriend Balance

Ah yes, the friend/girlfriend balance — easily one of the hardest things a man will have to manage in his life. It’s Friday night and you’re hanging out with your girlfriend, when suddenly you get a text from your buds commanding you to come out to a nearby bar. Do you go alone, bring your girlfriend, say you can’t, ignore the text? If I had the answer to this ageless question, I wouldn’t be writing content for websites… I’d be an omnipotent being giving advice for a shit-ton of money. Maintaining the balance is up to you; we all know how amazing it is to snuggle up with your girlfriend 24/7, but neither one of you wants to be the only person in each other’s lives. If you can spend time with your friends by yourself, with her by your side, and vice-versa for her friends all equally, you’re on the right track.

You Have Awesome Sex

Whether it’s wild sex, make up sex, Christmas sex, Hanukkah sex, morning sex, afternoon sex, drunk sex, or gloriously lazy sex,you know you’re with the person you’re meant to be with when the sex is always good… even when it’s bad.

You Can Do Nothing Together (And Love It)

On the other hand, there are still those nights where neither one of you wants to have sex at all (imagine that!) and you opt out for Netflix and Chill (literally) with a glass of booze in your hands. If you don’t feel the need to fill those lovely nights with forced conversation or unnecessary hand stuff, you can consider your relationship a success. There is no such thing as time wasted when you’re spending that time with someone you love — consider turning off your phones and enjoying domestic bliss.

Things Are Still Romantic

If you have to struggle to keep things romantic, don’t let that dissuade you from thinking the girl you’re with is the girl you should end up with. I get it, the weeks are long, work is hard, and Fridays are the most tiring days ever. It’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortable laziness, but that doesn’t mean all hope is lost. If you have to plan out a romantic evening that doesn’t naturally occur, don’t fret, because romance doesn’t die with the person who’s made for you. It may be harder and harder to make time for those little moments, but when they pop up, you’ll remember why you chose each other.It doesn’t have to be a grandiose gesture of roses and dinner and a mariachi band — in fact, it can be as something as small as telling her she looks pretty. If you’ve got that, you’ve got everything.

You See A Future With Her

It’s actually quite startling how many couples refrain from talking about the future out of fear. Call me crazy, but I think it’s because so few couples out there actually see themselves with the person they’re with for a long period of time. The relationship-out-of-necessity, or “settling” is a huge problem that will trap innocent loving people in a commitment they don’t want. They spend thousands of dollars on a wedding and a honeymoon to find out, a few years later, that they were never really that into it. If you close your eyes and think about your life and she’s in every daydream you have, then you’re on the right track. If she feels the same way and you’ve talked about this with each other, you’re on the double-right track. If neither one of you can see a long-term future with each other, it’s time to move on.

You’re Completely Yourself Around Her

Don’t hide your personality or pretend to be something you’re not — that’s what first dates are for. When you’re with the one, you start to think of them as an extension of yourself. You can fully be your own person around them and they can do the same with you. If you find yourself censoring your words or thoughts and simply don’t feel comfortable around them, then take that all into consideration. If you’re in it for the long haul and feel like you have to lock yourself in your bedroom every hour, you might be doing something wrong. Finding the one you love is about finding someone who will love and accept you for who you are. You’ll grow together, change together, and just be together without any reservations.

You have her unconditional support

When you look back at the things you’ve been through in your life while in a relationship with her, you cannot think of a single incident in which she hasn’t supported you in any way or hasn’t helped you get past it. Even when you were about to give up, she was the one pushing you. She has been your strength all along. She believes in you, even when you fail to believe in yourself.

You think she is perfect!

There isn’t a thing you’d want to change about her, even the things she thinks are imperfections. The way she smiles, the way she talks, how she holds you and how she blushes when you compliment her, every little thing about her spells out perfect for you.

You see her in your future

When you talk about your future, you talk about the two of you being together. You can’t imagine any scenario without her being present in it. You even make plans with her. She’s the one you want to share everything with, now and in the foreseeable future.

She compromises

There are times when a person is not at their best and they fail to do things the way they normally would. When you’re going through such a period and fall short of being a good partner, instead of complaining she proves to be understanding of your situation. She doesn’t make you feel bad about it, rather helps you in whatever ways she can.

Tuesday 1 November 2016

3 Tricks For Improving Your Focus

Are you behind on a task or project, late to a commitment again, or cannot remember what you did yesterday for fun? If this is the case, you may have an issue with focus and attention span and it may be hard for you to stick to a task. Your attention span dictates how much time you are able to focus on a task without being distracted.

Focus is necessary for achieving one’s goals. If you are not able to focus on your goals then you will tend to jump away from the right track quite often. Do not worry, for you are not alone. There are lots of people with this problem, and there is something known as “ADHD,” Attention Deficiency Hyperactivity Disorder, which has to do with not focusing or just being distracted a lot. There are many different distractions and external stimuli around us such as noise.

Here are 3 tricks for improving your focus:

1. Stick With Exercise

Ever felt like exercising clears up your mind and gets you more focused? Do you resort to playing basketball or some other sport when life gets too stressed out and you need a break? Physical activity could stimulate more learning and development because there are these endorphins that are released when you do something you enjoy.

These happy hormones are responsible for giving you a good “high” that pushes you to perform better and just as it does that, it could push your focus to a better place and increase your attention span once your mind is clear and focused on only that certain task you are doing.

2. Write Your Task Out

It all begins with writing your tasks and activities you want to accomplish or focus on. Does it ever feel like you know all the tasks you need to complete throughout the day but then as the day commences you begin to finish things but also forget about other things?

Well, this is common and could happen because you have too much on mind and do not write down your tasks. All you need to do is jot down the task or even just a keyword reminding yourself of what you have on mind to day or do. The next step could be to go down this list and start focusing on each task one at a time and your day should go well. Do not underestimate the impact of writing and mapping out your activities, it could really help.

3. Create The Proper Environment

Let us be honest about this; if you really want and need to focus on a certain task then set up the proper environment and the proper place. Do not go to a busy place such as a busy mall or coffee shop and expect that you will be able to focus and do well on your work. Instead make sure that you have a special room in the house if possible that you label “focus room,” where you can go in and know that you will have the proper focus needed for the task.

Overall, focus is something that we all wish to improve because that will mean that we will be more effective and finish our tasks more punctually and move on to other things. This will, as a result, help us achieve more success. So work on improving your focus and do not underestimate its impact.

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