6 ways to beat type 2 diabetes naturally

The secret to managing type 2 diabetes doesn’t come in a pill. In most cases, simple lifestyle changes will do the trick.

It is no secret that type 2 diabetes is on the rise around the world. But if you have been diagnosed, there is a lot you can do to improve your health — and the best place to start is by changing your lifestyle. Click here >> www.showmehealthytips.com

“Basic principles of good health like eating right, exercising regularly and maintaining a healthy weight can be as effective as medicine in the management of type 2 diabetes for most people,” says dietitian Sue McLaughlin, RD, diabetes educator and president of health care and education for the American Diabetes Association. This is also backed up by the Look AHEAD study, a large clinical trial funded by the National Institutes of Health and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The researchers found that over a four-year period, changes like eating a healthier diet and getting more exercise led to weight loss and improved diabetes control in 5000 overweight or obese participants with type 2 diabetes.

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1. Improve your diet

Keeping close tabs on your diet is a major way to manage type 2 diabetes. A healthy diet for people with type 2 diabetes includes fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains, beans, lean meats, and low-fat dairy. Focus on eating fruits and non-starchy vegetables, like broccoli, carrots, and lettuce, and having smaller portions of starchy foods, meat, and dairy products. Be especially careful about loading up on foods that are high on the glycemic index (GI), a system that ranks foods according to how they affect glucose levels. High-GI foods include white breads, white rice, and soda. www.showmehealthytips.com

Limit fast food, too. In a 15-year study of 3,000 young adults, those who ate fast food more than twice a week developed insulin resistance (a diabetes risk factor) at twice the rate of people who weren’t fast food junkies. Plus, fast food is loaded with refined carbohydrates, trans fats, and sodium, which can be especially unhealthy for people with type 2 diabetes.

2. Lose Weight

Shedding weight can improve blood sugar levels and help keep type 2 diabetes under control. And you don’t have to lose a lot of weight to make a difference. “If you already have type 2 diabetes, losing just 10 to 15 kg can lower your glucose levels,” says McLaughlin.

Where your fat is distributed also affects your diabetes risk and management. People who carry most of their fat in their belly (apple shape) are more prone to type 2 diabetes than those with fat mostly in the thighs, hips, and buttocks (pear shape). A woman whose waist measures more than 35 inches and a man with a 40-inch waist need to lose weight for good diabetes management, says McLaughlin, adding that a healthy diet and regular aerobic exercise will whittle away weight in the stomach area.

3. Exercise regularly

Even without losing a pound, exercise can help keep type 2 diabetes under control.

“When you do physical activity, such as walking, your muscle contractions push glucose out of your blood into your cells,” explains McLaughlin. The result: Better blood sugar levels.

Of course, the more intense the exercise, the better. In one study of vigorous exercise and type 2 diabetes, women who walked quickly gained more protection from type 2 diabetes than those who walked at a more leisurely pace.

Regular weight-lifting sessions can also help keep blood sugar levels steady. McLaughlin recommends using hand weights or resistance bands for 30 minutes two to three times a week.

4. Control sleep apnea

Many overweight people with type 2 diabetes also have sleep apnea, a condition in which a person stops breathing temporarily while sleeping.

People with type 2 diabetes and sleep apnea are at higher risk of death from heart attack and stroke. Their blood sugar levels also fluctuate more dramatically while sleeping than in those who have type 2 diabetes, but not sleep apnea, according to one study. These fluctuations have been linked to a higher risk for diabetic complications. www.showmehealthytips.com

Severe cases of sleep apnea may need to be treated with surgery or by wearing a special device while sleeping, but less severe cases can be managed by losing weight. Talk to your doctor if you suspect you may have sleep apnea — loud snoring is one sign. A special sleep test can diagnose sleep apnea.

5. Soothe stress

Stress can make blood sugar levels harder to control, says McLaughlin. Try relaxation techniques to chase away stress. Top-notch stress busters include meditation, massage, and soothing music.

As a bonus, stress relief may help you sleep better. This is very important because studies show that not getting enough sleep can worsen type 2 diabetes. Sleeping less than six hours a night has also been found to contribute to impaired glucose tolerance, a condition that often precedes type 2 diabetes.

Besides the above mentioned ways of soothing stress, try deep breathing before bed. Other tips you can try are:

– Avoid alcohol, caffeine, and spicy foods at night.
– Maintain a slightly cool temperature in your sleep environment.
– Block out all light and noise.
– Go to bed at the same time every night to establish a sleep schedule.
– These management strategies can have a dramatic impact on blood sugar levels and the progression of type 2 diabetes, says McLaughlin. – – Simple lifestyle changes will improve how you feel today, and help ensure a healthier future. www.showmehealthytips.com

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Tinubu Backs his Man: Buhari made a Wise Decision on Fuel Subsidy Removal

APC chieftain and former Governor of Lagos State,
Bola Ahmed Tinubu has thrown his weight behind President Buhari over the fuel subsidy removal matter.

Bola Tinubu through a statement said that Buhari had made a prudent and courageous decision on the removal of fuel subsidy and it will only go on to make things better for Nigerians.

The statement said “We all want fuel at a cheaper price. under the subsidy, we got the right price but not the fuel. Meanwhile, some were getting rich on the common man’s predicament. They were laughing to the bank while the rest of Nigeria waited in the petrol line. This is not the way to democratic development. It is a recipe for creating a class of economic predators that would feed off the people and in time gain such power and wealth that they would seek to buy and control if not own government as well.

President Buhari has with this decision put an abrupt and just end to this assault against our economy and political system. He has made a courageous and prudent decision. It is time to end the fuel subsidy and to begin to subsidize the true needs of the people.
To Mr. President, I say congratulations for having the courage to remove the subsidy. The President has taken this tough decision in the interest of the present and future generations of Nigerians.
For some time, I have been a proponent of this action. I believed ending of subsidy was the only sure way to put to sleep the myriad demons that had invaded the subsidy process, sucking the blood of Nigeria, swallowing much of our needed money.

The rentiers will no longer be able to make free money at our common expense. They will no longer be laughing to the bank while you languish in endless fuel queues. Nigeria has taken the historic step needed to create a competitive environment that that will eliminate smuggling, provide incentives for private refineries and attract foreign investments in the downstream sector and create employment.

Instead of just shipping off the oil and having the more expensive finished products sent back to us, Nigeria will move closer to realizing its potential to become the plastic center of the continent by manufacturing these by products. Nothing can stop Nigeria from being the net exporter of fertilizer from the bye products of the oil industry.”

PST E A Adeboye OPEN HEAVENS DAILY DEVOTIONAL FRI 13 MAY 2016 LIGHT OF THE WORLD

Memorise:
Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on
an hill cannot be hid. Mathew 5:14
Read: Mathew 5:14-16

14 Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set
on an hill cannot be hid.

15 Neither do men light a candle, and put it under
a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light
unto all that are in the house.

16 Let your light so shine before men, that they
may see your good works, and glorify your Father
which is in heaven.

Message
Jesus introduced Himself to humanity in John
8:12 as the light of the world. Just as the sun is
the physical light of the world, so also is Jesus
the spiritual light of the world. As the light of the
world, Jesus exposes sin and gives sight. Our
memory verse for today shows that Jesus is the
primary light, and we are the secondary light. As
the light of the sun is to the moon, so Jesus is
the source of light, and we are the reflectors of
the light. Jesus said in John 9:5:
“As long as I am in the world, I am the light of
the world.”

Now that He is no longer here, we are His
reflected light in the world. I have often told my
children that light is a very powerful force. When
there is light, darkness has no chance than to
disappear. John 1:5 says:
"And the light shineth in darkness; and the
darkness comprehended it not".
The truth is, not all light can outshine darkness.
For instance, Genesis 1 talks of categories of
lights.
"And God made two great lights; the greater light
to rule the day, and the lesser light to rule the
night: he made the stars also." Genesis 1:16

There are lights of the sun, moon and stars. Then
there are man-made lights of varying sizes. If you
flick on the tiny bulb of a flash-light in the midst
of total darkness, you will only see the spot that
the torch is pointing at. Everywhere else will still
be surrounded by darkness. The size of a light
determines the area it will dominate or rule over.
The sun rules over the day because it is far
brighter than the moon. If the moon were to
replace the sun during the day, there would be
darkness during a period that should be day time.
Similarly, if you bring the sun to replace the moon
during night time, the night will turn into day.
This tells us that what determines the result of a
situation is the amount of light it is exposed to.

This means exposing varying degrees of light on
the same situation will give you different results.
The volume of light of God's Word that you are
exposed to will determine the degree of change
you can experience. Mathew 5:16 says:
"Let your light so shine before men, that they
may see your good works, and glorify your Father
which is in heaven."
The Intensity and size of God's light in you will
determine your sphere of domination. Although,
God has commanded you to dominate everything
(Genesis 1:28), the actual scope of your
domination will be determined by the amount of
God's Word that is in you. The Word is the Light
of the world. If you lack the Word, you lack the
light that gives definition to your ability to
dominate.

As you increase your Word content, you
enlarge your coast. Staying away from the Word
automatically reduces your glow and ultimately,
your ability to control forces, situations and
circumstances. On the other hand, the moment
you stop shining as light, darkness will swallow
you up. If you want to be victorious over forces of
darkness, be daily exposed to more light from His
Word.

Prayer Point:
Father, please fill me with Your light and let me
shine across the whole world in Jesus’ name.
BIBLE IN ONE YEAR: 2 Kings 15:17-17:23 and
Proverbs 23:29-24:7

HYMN 7: HOLY HOLY HOLY, LORD GOD
ALMIGHTY

1. Holy, holy, holy! Lord God Almighty!
Early in the morning our song shall rise to thee;
Holy, holy, holy! merciful and mighty,
God in three persons, blessed Trinity!

2. Holy, holy, holy! All the saints adore thee,
Casting down their golden crowns around the
glassy sea;
Cherubim and seraphim falling down before thee,
Who wert and art and evermore shalt be.

3. Holy, holy, holy! Though the darkness hide
thee,
Though the eye made blind by sin thy glory may
not see,
Only thou art holy; there is none beside thee,
Perfect in power, in love, and purity.

4. Holy, holy, holy! Lord God Almighty!
All thy works shall praise thy name, in earth and
sky and sea;
Holy, holy, holy! merciful and mighty,
God in three persons, blessed Trinity!

Catch Yourself Complaining ? 7 Ways To Shut It Down Now

Wondering how you can stop yourself from moaning or complaining about things before you even begin? Put an end to complaining with these 7 techniques below. Find the inspiring things in life that may come from a dark point yet in the end you learn how to be positive from. Find out why complaining is simply just not for you.

1. Know The Warning Signs

Know when you are about to start complaining, figure out why and tell yourself to move on from there. By knowing when you feel like you are complaining or when you may begin, you keep yourself from indulging deeply into it. In other words, stop it before it begins.

2. Think Of The Good Aspects Of The Situation

Learn to see what the good in situations and to stop focusing on the bad things that make you complain. In everything there is something we can at least learn from. Why not make that choice to figure out what it is and change the way you think for a better experience and the betterment of yourself. No need to complain about everything. Life cannot be that bad!

3. Be Mindful And Aware

Be mindful of everything and everyone and be aware. Try and think sensibly and consciously understand your surroundings without being so quick to jump to conclusions and judgements. By asserting that you will mindfully go into any situation you are faced with you can end that urge to complain and change your perspective while you are at it.

4. Stop Judging So Much

Why so critical? Learn to stop judging so much especially when you find yourself nagging others about small issues. Ever about the effects your judgment might have on others around? Value others feelings and learn when to keep your thoughts to yourself.

5. Look Forward And Stay Positive

Consider your wellbeing and keep heading forward with a positive perspective. Complaining only takes time away from developing a positive life and maintaining positive attitudes.

When you have an urge to complain, consider the effects it has, whether big or small and make a choice to gather all that inner positive energy to keep you feeling good throughout the day no matter what. Be direct, shine and be positive and happy. Carry a smile with you at all times!

6. Learn To Adapt And Welcome Change

Learn to adapt in the face of change. Life is full of changes so be prepared to take them head on. Explore them, learn, and become wise. Complaining will definitely get you nowhere. Instead welcome life’s challenges, see it as an adventure. Adapt and make use of every situation you find yourself in.

7. Be Content

And of course, learn to be content with what you have at present. By being content, you push away the urge to complain. You find the happiness you need- too fulfilled to even think about whining. No dissatisfaction here! Only good-natured pleasure as you find comfort in the beautiful aspects of life that keep you at ease throughout your days.

Whether you complain about the smaller or bigger things in life, consider living complaint free and keep your spirit at ease.

Do you know a constant complainer? We’d love to hear about them! Please share your story below.

21 Worst Reasons You Are Not Living Up To Your Full Potential

Wondering why you are not living up to your full potential like you wish you could? Sometimes it goes beyond what others think and actually has a lot to do with how we view ourselves. Here are 21 worst reasons you are not living up to your full potential. Recognize the signs and get up and start heading in a direction that benefits you. You will surely find some of those signs and ‘first step in solving any problem is recognizing there is one.’

1. You Are Living In Fear

Whether it is fear of rejection, fear of the unknown, fear of reprisal or anything else, being afraid can keep us from fully reaching our potential. Take a moment to think, what are you actually afraid of?

2. Low Self Confidence

Or maybe you are experiencing low self-confidence which can keep us from achieving anything. Find pride in your abilities and if you need to work on something about yourself, do so

3. Not Enough Push, Drive And Motivation

Sometimes not having any drive and the right kind of push to get us up and going can affect how we set about going for gold. Find something that motivates you and remind yourself of it daily.

4. A Lack Of Encouragement From People You Love The Most

Maybe you are experiencing a lack of encouragement from people you love the most and this may come across as if they do not care. Let others know that you could use some positivity. Keep in mind that often we are faced with seemingly solitude on our journeys throughout life so try and stay strong and encourage yourself when you have too.

5. Procrastination

Procrastination is never a friend. Kick it in the butt and get to work.

6. Undeserving Attitude

Who determines whether you deserve something more than you yourself? Build the confidence you need and know that you deserve much in life just like anyone else.

7. Inferiority Complex

Often comparing ourselves and what we want to see in our own lives to others can have us feeling all kinds of lows. Feeling inferior only comes about when we compare ourselves to others and make them appear- within our own heads- as more superior. Learn to appreciate who you are and what you can achieve. All the stuff people are doing is outside stuff. Let it go so you can progress.

8. You Do Not Know How To Start

Just start. Do not know where? Draw up a plan if you have too but along the way you will experience things that you learn from and eventually this will get you on the path you know you need to be.

9. You Have No Way To Measure Your Goals

Write them down and keep them somewhere safe like in a journal or a piece of paper you keep in your wallet to look at everything you need encouragement. Do not measure your goals against others, rather measure them against your achievements and figure out what works and what doesn’t.

10. You Do Not Understand Your Purpose

Maybe you do not understand your purpose. Well understand this; We all have a purpose whether we have yet to figure it out or have already found it. Keep on going, figuring out your purpose often comes with time and experience.

11. You Are Comfortable Where You Are

Sometimes being comfortable where you are can mean deciding not to continue any further whether you want to or not. Consider all pros and cons and think “will my decision to stay where I am today limit me in the future?”

12. Too Much Focus On The Past

Why bring up the past if it has cannot be a positive example for the present? Focus your attention on perhaps starting over again and breathe a sigh of relief that the past does not have to be a part of your journey unless you want it too.

13. Not Allowing Yourself To Laugh

Laugh sometimes. Smile. Life cannot be that bad. Humor brings us closer to action because the more positive and optimistically happy we feel the better chance we have at reaching success.

14. You Do Not Know How To Say No

Learn to say “no” sometimes. You cannot carry the world on your shoulders so when the stress is too great and you start neglecting yourself, learn to tell others “no” so you can take care.

15. You Do Not Know How To Say Yes To Yourself

Or maybe you do not know how to say “yes” to yourself. You say “yes” to everyone else and “no” to yourself. While some religions teach that this is the way life should be, why destruct yourself for the pleasure of others? You too were “created” to live in this world so allow yourself to do so.

16. You Have No Trust

Maybe you do not trust yourself to go far or you do not trust others to support you when you feel down. Learn to trust but also learn to be mindful and aware so you know who you can trust and those you may not be able too.

17. There is Pain Somewhere In Your Life Holding You Back

Pain can keep us from striving for the best. If you are feeling sorrow, try and understand where it is coming from and work on feeling good again.

18. You Are Taking Giant Leaps When You Could Take Baby Steps

Sometimes smaller steps are even greater than giant leaps because then we can focus more on detail. Even small steps are accomplishments. Not everything has to be big in order to really mean something.

19. You Feel Lost

Perhaps you feel lost all around like there is nothing you can do because you have no idea where you are to begin with. Have no fear in possibly starting fresh and new or take some time to sit and evaluate your life so you understand it and know how to deal with the coming changes.

20. You Have No Self Control

What does it mean to have self-control? Self-control simply means being able to regulate what happens in your life, being aware and understanding your experiences while also saying “no” to things that may not be the best for you. Learn to have self-control and reach your full potential.

21. Why Should You If No One Acknowledges It

Lastly but not least, maybe you believe that no one will acknowledge that you are living at your full potential. While it may appear that way, trust me when I say this, people do notice but unfortunately we do live in a world where people are highly competitive and sometimes love to “hate.” As long as you keep your head up and improve your life for the betterment of your overall self that is all that matters. You acknowledge it, you celebrate and take joy and that is all that matters in the end.

So whether we are living in fear, feeling inferior, lazy, or just plain comfortable already in where we are at, these 21 reasons why you are not living up to your full potential can be a significant headache. Learn to get around them and find out how you can accomplish more starting today and heading into a long and great future.

Are You A Good Brand To Date ?

Entering the dating world again, I cannot help but notice how similar dating is to engaging with a brand on social media. After all, let’s face it, most of us probably spend more time on social media than paying attention to some of our dates. So I’ve created a little test for you to see if your brand is a first class date, or a dud that leaves the consumer moving on to their next date.

#1- Does your brand open the doors for your consumers?

My mom judged my college boyfriend on the fact that he DID NOT open the door for me when I went up to Jupiter, FL to have dinner with her. Let me tell you something, there was never a door that boy did not open for me after my mom had a few choice words with him. Ever since, that’s been one of my first indications when going on a date with someone new. Let’s just say that the non-door openers don’t make it quite as far.

The same goes for your brand. Consumers shouldn’t have to spend hours searching for your Twitter handle or your Facebook URL. If you want your fans to engage, open the doors for them! Add your social media logos and links to every piece of outgoing collateral, whether it be an email signature or a business card.

#2- Does your brand make good dinner conversation?

No one likes a silent date. I mean, if getting a word out of my date is like pulling teeth, I am already onto the next one. The same goes for brands. If your brand is silent, not answering the questions coming at it from all social networks, then your consumers will move onto the brand who is on social, answering those questions.

However, no one likes an overly-chatty date that talks about no one but himself, either. Arrogance is my number one turn-off on a date, and hence, in a brand. Don’t enter the social space with a one-way conversation. Look for ways that you can engage with your consumers, asking them questions about their own experiences, so they feel included in your brand’s voice.

#3- Does your brand call the next day?

I know, I know there is some three-day rule out there. Fortunately, I am the girl, and have never had to count to three. Honestly, with the emergence of the speed of social media, I actually find that I’ve moved on if the person has waited three days. I am onto a different conversation by then.

The same goes for brands– that three day rule is no longer relevant. While you once had days to respond to written letters and emails, now consumers expect that highly visible FB message and/or Tweet to be answered ASAP.

They also expect follow-up. Absolutely wow your consumers by checking in after their first “date” with you and making sure that their experience was positive with your brand on social media. Don’t let the conversation end after the first date.

If you answered ‘yes’ to all of the above questions, congrats on being a highly datable brand! If you answered ‘no’, there is still time to become a better date in the social media world. Just think of your brand as someone you would like to spend a lot of time with. Would you like to spend a lot of time with someone who is arrogant and doesn’t follow-up with you? Or would you like to spend time with someone who lets you talk about yourself every now and then, and makes sure that the conversation continues after the first date?

TIPS: Here Are The Top 5 Possible Ways To Stay Classy After Breakup

It took me a long time to fall in love . Twenty -
five years, to be exact.
Loneliness is one of the most difficult aspects
of being single . Considering I went through
high school and college without a girlfriend, I
thought my loneliness was profound .
I can’ t help but laugh at my naivety because
the loneliness you feel when a relationship ends
cannot even compare .
One aspect about my relationship that always
seemed intense was how fast we moved.
By our second date , I knew it was the real
thing , and by the seventh month , we talked
about the potential of marriage .
At one point , my ex said , “We would have
beautiful babies ,” and the comment
remarkably didn ’ t scare me. Rather, it made my
heart skip a beat .
When a man crosses paths with a woman who
is capable of straightening him out , a strange
rewiring occurs.
Of course, not all men need to be “straightened
out , ” but before I met my girlfriend I was , as a
former coworker once labeled me, “A hot ass
mess .”
Don’ t get me wrong ; I was employed , working
on a master’ s degree , writing and enjoying my
life . However , I was also lazy , lacked purpose
and struggled with motivation .
When I met my soon-to -be girlfriend, all of
that changed.
For the first time in my life , I met a woman
who I felt was worth fighting for. And for the
time being, I had found my purpose in her .
The thing that confused me the most about our
relationship was the fighting . Of course, no
relationship will be daisies and rainbows all the
time , and fighting is normal.
However , when there is total harmony between
you and your partner, fights can sometimes feel
like a blind- side football tackle .
One of the toughest lessons I learned as my ex
and I moved through tumultuous times was to
not break up while in a fight.
I only learned this lesson because I initially
broke up with my girlfriend after a fight.
Moments later, I came crawling back because it
didn’ t feel right .
So , what was particularly difficult about the
end of my relationship was that we weren ’ t
fighting anymore . We were in a normal, day- to -
day state .
However , I knew in the back of my mind I
wasn ’ t seeing the future of us anymore .
Instead of waiting for a moment when we
snapped at each other and took the easy way
out , I broke up with my girlfriend under very
honest terms. But, that didn’ t make it easy .
Counterintuitively, it’ s hard not to question
your decision because you made it in a sound
state of mind as opposed to relying on anger
or frustration .
Still , it ’ s rewarding to know my relationship
ended on good terms , and in the future , I may
even get the chance to catch up and enjoy her
company again.
At the end of my relationship, I learned these
five rules to executing and maintaining a classy
breakup :

1. Commit

This goes for both men and women: If you
could not commit to the idea of being in a
relationship with your lover, then commit to the
idea of not being with him or her .
For most couples , it ’ s easy to fall back into
each other ’ s arms the moment loneliness
strikes, but you’ re simply cheating yourselves.
When you make the decision to end a
relationship, understand and embrace that it is
truly the end, no matter how much it hurts.
Then, you must challenge yourself to never
speak to that person again.
That sounds intense, but opportunities may
come up down the line to reconnect . However ,
the wounds must heal first.
It ’ s essential any contact with your ex isn ’ t
driven by a desire to get back together , to
search for closure or to simply feel something .
Rather, contact should only be initiated if you
have fully and truly moved on. For many , it ’ s
possible that time may never come. Embrace
it.

2. Stop searching for closure

I was unprepared for the finality losing my
lover and my best friend .
After a few good cries and some absurdly long
showers contemplating the demise of my
relationship, I finally came to understand not
everyone gets closure.
Few relationships are neatly wrapped up like a
bow on a Christmas present . Endings are
painful, and it was particularly shocking for me
after I experienced my first “honeymoon ”
phase .
Accepting that closure may not be in the cards
for you is hard, but that realization initiates the
healing phase .

3. Heal in a positive way

Personally, I’ m not the type to go out and have
crazy, meaningless s * x or to turn to drugs and
alcohol. Rather , I will just toil in a potent
cocktail of self - loathing and depression.
When my relationship ended , days started to
blend together . I felt that core , hallmark feeling
of depression I had felt before : helplessness.
I think my saving grace was the gym . I ’ m no
fitness expert ( and my diet sucks) , but pushing
myself through a few workouts while blasting
powerful music really helped me heal .

4. Don’t look back in anger

A failed relationship is a failed relationship, and
ultimately, it takes two people to bring it down
( most of the time , anyway ) .
Even Andy Dufresne from the “Shawshank
Redemption ” came to understand his actions
were partially responsible for the demise of his
marriage .
Bear in mind , he came to this conclusion after
20 years in jail , which was preceded by
catching his wife cheating and being wrongly
convicted for her murder .
If that isn ’ t a profound realization , I don ’ t
know what is .
An immature concern of mine after my
relationship ended was publicly establishing
who broke up with who .
When I found out from friends of my ex that
word had spread I had broken up with her, I
was elated.
“That’ s right , I broke it off !” Looking back , I am
borderline ashamed of my childlike mindset .
Ultimately , my desire to publicly define the
breakup came from my insecurity of what other
people thought of me.
I didn ’ t want to be looked down on for being
broken up with. I wanted to be respected for
having initiated the act myself .
In reality , my time should have been spent
trying to understand where I had failed my ex
as a boyfriend and how I could improve upon
those failures in the future .

5. Understand the price of love

In the classic movie , “Annie Hall” by Woody
Allen, we spend 90 minutes exploring a
relationship from its formation to its demise .
As the movie comes to a close , the couple
having been broken up for some time , Alvy
( Woody Allen) unexpectedly runs into his
former lover, Annie ( Diane Keaton ) .
They decide to grab a cup of coffee , and as
they share laughs and effortlessly rediscover
their old chemistry , the movie transitions into a
montage, as it runs through memories of their
relationship.
It shows them walking on the beach , kissing
under the covers , frustration as they move in
together , happily exchanging gifts , Alvy
consoling Annie as she cries and an
idiosyncratic moment as they laugh together
on a NYC park bench after noticing something
funny in the distance.
After the montage , Alvy begins to narrate,
“After that it got pretty late, and we both had
to go , but it was great seeing Annie again. I … I
realized what a terrific person she was , and…
and how much fun it was just knowing her;
and I… I, I thought of that old joke …”
As Alvy narrates , the camera watches him from
a distance as he stands on a NYC street corner
and says goodbye to Annie.
We observe this lingering moment , and you can
see Alvy is searching for something more , as
he shakes Annie ’ s hand for far too long, not
wanting to let go .
He then finishes narrating: